Leadership and Life Balance
What Should I Do If My Teenager Wants to Quit Their Sport?
Rhema Adelaja · National Champion & 4x DUX
Listen before you decide. Ask what they dislike and what they still like. Try rebalancing first: a different team, level or schedule, or a short trial with a review. Check your own expectations. If you are worried about their mood, talk to a doctor. Ask for support early.
The answer
- Listen first. Ask what they do not like about it, and what they do like.
- Ask what would need to change for them to keep going: a different team, a lower level, fewer sessions.
- Try rebalancing first. Look at school, sport, rest and friends as one week, and see what is out of balance.
- Agree a short trial, such as one month, and review it together.
- Look at your own behaviour. Pressure from adults is one of the main reasons young people stop. Think about expectations, a focus on winning, long talks after games and critical comments. Let your teenager tell you if you are adding pressure.
- If they cannot name anything they like about it, that may be a sign this sport is not the right fit for them now.
- Ask for support early, from their coach or school. If you are worried about their mood, or they seem low most days, talk to your doctor or another qualified professional.
For information only. This is general information for student-athletes, not medical, legal, financial or professional advice. Talk to a qualified professional about your own situation. Terms
Rules and amounts change. Check the official source before you act. Last checked: 14 October 2026.