Leadership and Life Balance
How Do I Resolve a Conflict With a Teammate?
Rhema Adelaja · National Champion & 4x DUX
Pause if emotions are high, then talk in person, one to one. Say what happened and how it affected you, then ask what to do next. Listen to their side. If it does not settle, ask your captain or coach to help. If you feel unsafe, tell a coach.
The answer
- Press pause if you are angry. Say "I need a minute" and come back later. Do not storm off or fire off a message.
- Decide what outcome you want. Writing it down helps.
- Choose a private moment and talk in person, one to one. Group chats and messages make misunderstandings worse.
- Use Fact, Feeling, Question: say what happened, say how it affected you, and ask a question about what to do next.
- Listen to their side without interrupting. Speak up for what you need without attacking them.
- Agree on one next action, then keep showing up to training as normal.
- If it does not settle, ask your captain or coach to help. They help you talk; they do not have to take a side.
- A conflict is a disagreement where both people can say their view. If one person has power over the other, or you feel unsafe, tell your coach or a trusted adult.
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Rules and amounts change. Check the official source before you act. Last checked: 16 October 2026.