Time and Structure
How can I help my athlete without nagging?
Rhema Adelaja · National Champion & 4x DUX
Swap reminders for a system. Sit down together and agree on one shared calendar and one short weekly check-in, then let the calendar do the reminding. Ask questions instead of giving orders, and step back when the plan is working.
The answer
- Ask your athlete to build their week in one calendar, with you helping.
- Agree that the calendar is the reminder, not you.
- Hold one short weekly check-in with one question: where did the week leak? Let your athlete answer first.
- Ask, do not tell: "What do you need from me this week?"
- Notice effort and process, not only results.
- When it is working, step back.
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