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The Question Play: How to Use Your Teacher Like a Coach
Rhema Adelaja · National Champion & 4x DUX · June 2026 · 6 min read
You're struggling in class but stay quiet, worried asking for help makes you look weak. Here's how to reframe it as a strategic move and use your teacher as part of your performance team.
I remember sitting in a physics lecture in my first year. The professor was explaining something about forces and vectors. Everyone else seemed to be nodding along. I was completely lost. My pen was still, my notebook was blank. My first thought was not, "I need help." It was, "Don't let anyone see you don't get this." I felt my face get hot. I looked down at my desk, hoping the moment would pass. On the track, if my block start was off, I would go straight to my coach. I would ask him to watch me. I would ask for feedback. I would drill it again and again. I never once thought that asking him for help made me a bad athlete. It made me a dedicated one. So why was the classroom different? Why did asking for help in there feel like admitting defeat?
This feeling is common. You are a high-performer. You are used to pushing through pain, to being strong, to figuring things out on your own. In your sport, you are taught to show no weakness. You carry that same mindset into the classroom. You get stuck on a maths problem or a history concept and you stay quiet. You tell yourself you will figure it out later. You think asking the teacher a "stupid" question will make you look incompetent in front of your teammates and classmates. So you say nothing. And you fall further behind.
Your Teacher is Your Academic Coach
I want you to reframe this situation. It is time to stop seeing your teacher as a judge who gives out grades. It is time to start seeing your teacher as a critical part of your performance team. They are your academic coach. Their job is not to catch you out. Their job is to develop your skills, just like your sports coach. You would never expect to master a new technique on the field without your coach's guidance. You watch film with them. You ask them to analyse your form. You talk about strategy. You see their feedback as essential information to help you win.
The classroom is your other training ground. Your brain is a muscle you are developing. When you ask a teacher for help, you are not admitting weakness. You are making a strategic move. You are gathering the intelligence you need to perform better. You are taking control of your own learning. This is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength, maturity, and a commitment to excellence. The best athletes I know are the ones who ask the best questions. The same is true for the best students.
The Evidence is Clear
This is not just my opinion. The data backs it up. Research shows a clear, positive link between asking for help and getting better academic results. It is that simple. Students who ask for guidance to understand the material perform better. For student-athletes, the numbers are even more specific. The NCAA reports that individuals who use academic support services have higher graduation rates. Think about that. Seeking help is a behaviour that directly contributes to you finishing your degree and succeeding in the long term.
When you avoid asking for help, you risk more than just a bad grade on one test. You risk developing a habit of helplessness. This is when you get so used to not understanding something that you stop trying to solve the problem. You just accept being lost. This is a dangerous mindset. It can damage your confidence and limit your opportunities far beyond school. Your behaviour in the classroom shapes your behaviour for life. Learning how to ask for help is a skill that will serve you in your sport, your career, and your relationships.
How to Make the Play
Knowing you should ask for help is one thing. Doing it is another. It can feel awkward, especially if you have never done it before. Like any new play, you need to practise it. You need a simple script that feels natural and strong. You do not need to announce that you are lost or confused. You just need to be direct and specific. This approach shows your teacher you are engaged and trying. It shows respect for their time and your own.
Your Script: The Question Play
First, find the right moment. Do not interrupt the middle of a lesson when the teacher is explaining a concept to the whole class. The best times are usually right after class ends, or during your teacher's specific office hours. A quiet, one-on-one setting removes the pressure of having your classmates listen in. It allows for a proper conversation.
Second, be specific about what you need. Vague statements like "I don't get it" are not helpful. They do not give your teacher a starting point. Instead, pinpoint the exact area of difficulty. This shows you have already put in some effort. Try one of these approaches.
- "I was following everything until we got to the section on X. Could you explain that part again?"
- "I understand the formula, but I'm struggling with how to apply it to question three on the homework."
- "Can we quickly go over the difference between these two concepts? I'm not sure I see it clearly."
Third, state your goal. This frames the conversation positively. It shows you are forward-looking and committed to improving. You can say something like, "My goal is to make sure I understand this properly before the exam next month." Or, "I want to get this right so I can build on it for the next topic." This turns the conversation from a problem ("I'm stuck") into a plan ("How can I move forward?").
See the Bigger Picture
Your coach on the field uses questions to make you a smarter athlete. They might ask, "What did you see on that last play?" or "What options did you have?" They do this to encourage you to think for yourself, to analyse situations, and to become more independent. They are not just giving you answers. They are teaching you how to think.
Your teachers are doing the same thing. When you ask them a question, their goal is to guide you to the answer, not just hand it to you. This process is vital. It builds new pathways in your brain. It strengthens your critical thinking and problem-solving skills. These are the exact same skills you need to read a complex defence or make a split-second decision in a tight match. The work you do in the classroom directly supports the work you do in your sport. It is all connected. Your teachers are a vital resource. Using them effectively is a mark of a truly elite performer.
Do not let a false sense of pride hold you back from achieving your academic goals. The quiet struggle helps no one. It does not make you tougher. It only makes you less prepared. Your performance team is bigger than just your coaches and trainers. It includes your teachers, your academic advisors, and anyone else dedicated to your success. Build those relationships. Use every resource available to you.
This week, I challenge you to make one question play. Identify one thing from any of your classes that you are not 100% certain about. It does not have to be a huge topic. It can be small. Find the right moment, use the script, and talk to your teacher. See it as a rep. The more you do it, the easier it will become. This is how you take ownership of your education and build the foundations for a successful life, both in and out of your sport.